Sexy for $16.99


After 25+ years of marriage and 3 children, it becomes somewhat of a challenge to describe yourself as “sexy”.  Let’s face it, I’m no longer 20 or 30 something and there aren’t a lot of magazines promoting sexy in the plus sizes.  So that‘s why I want to share my story of how a simple dress can put the “sexy” back into your vocabulary.

It started with buying some therapeutic walking shoes for vacation.  I was discussing my shopping plans with a friend who informed me that there were sandals with orthopedic lifts built in for support.  She assured me that these sandals weren’t only comfortable, but also “cute”.  To provide a little guidance, she decided to accompany me on my shopping excursion and I was pleased to find a pair of coral sandals that felt wonderful.  Now that I had the shoes I was on the hunt for a few cool and comfortable coral outfits to match and I hit the jackpot with a few outfits one of which was a coral sundress.  There was nothing exciting about the dress and for $16.99, I was quite pleased.

Now let’s fast forward to the vacation.  It’s was going to be a nice relaxing day on the cruise ship so I decided that this was the coral sundress and sandal day.  We had decided on a meeting time for breakfast and before walking out the door I took a look at myself in the mirror.  Just as I was admiring the benefits of my last several months of working out on the elliptical and weight training, I heard a voice whisper behind me, “I like your curves in that dress.”  I was somewhat startled and respond with, “What?” And the voice repeated, “I like your curves in that dress.” I giggled the way women giggle when they’re blushing but don’t want you to know.  Needless to say, I wore that coral dress a few more times while on vacation.  And what do you know, I kept getting the same response every time I wore it.

I’ve worn the coral dress on several occasions this past summer and the following are a few insights:

  1. Beauty, translated in this case “sexy”, is truly in the eye of the beholder.  In a world where we hear that “skinny is in and plus isn’t so desirable”, I was reminded to flip the script.  My admiring husband of 25 years reminded me that his desire is for me and the dress only emphasized that desire.
  2. If you’re having trouble defining “sexy” for you, think about enlisting your husband’s help. Get creative and invite him to a date night fashion show with him as the VIP guest.  Make sure he has a prime seat with hors d’oeuvres and drinks.  And by all means, don’t forget the music.  A word of caution.  You’ll probably only need 5 or fewer outfits because it won’t take him long to find “sexy”!
  3. More than anything else, remember that “sexy” is an attitude. According to Proverbs 18:22, I am my husband’s “good thing” that brings him “favor from the Lord”.  As a wife, I have to know that in my heart and translate it by carrying myself with confidence and poise.  It’s not about scantly displaying what’s on the outside but instead gracefully demonstrating what’s on the inside that consistently makes me desirable to him.

With the season change, I’ve started packing away my capris, t-shirts and sundresses and pulling out the sweaters, jeans and boots.  As I packed away the coral sundress I smiled while remembering that sexy is in the eye of the beholder and the beholder is watching me more often than I realized.  What he sees and desires however is much more than what’s displayed in a coral sundress.  It’s the culmination of 25+ years of learning and understanding that as I present myself as a wife and companion with grace, confidence and poise, I become the conduit by which my husband receives favor from the Lord.  And that revelation is worth much more than my $16.99 investment!