The Power of Agreement

The Power of Agreement

Holding HandsDuring the course of 25+ years of marriage, Roosevelt and I have had many occasions to disagree.  After all we came into this relationship as two different people with our own likes, dislikes, preferences, priorities, values and experiences.  And then we realized that the ultimate goal in marriage was to intertwine, intermingle and interweave those differences and become “one”!  So whose idea was that anyway!?

“Can two walk together except they be agreed?” That’s the thought provoking question that Amos 3:3 asks. How is it possible for us as couples, friends, or co-workers to walk together as a unified team if we don’t agree? The answer is very simple. We can’t. Unless we find a place of agreement, there will be contention, disharmony, resentment, lack of productivity and powerlessness.

The following are 3 vital principles necessary to operate together in harmony, unity and on one accord.

  1. God’s word must be the standard that we live by.  Understand that obedience to God’s word opens the door to His promises, provisions, and power.

    Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life. And if you love and obey the Lord, you will live long in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors. Deuteronomy 30:19, 20

  2. Live only by what God says about you.  The voices of our parents, siblings, family, friends, enemies, and our own self-talk can shape our self-image; however, the only voice that really counts is our Heavenly Father’s.  It may be necessary to transform your thinking because the opinion you have about yourself will affect the way you interact with others and pursue your destiny in life.

    Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.  Romans 12:2 (The Message)

  3. Recognize that different isn’t wrong.  It’s just ….different.  We are created in God’s image and likeness and He has a plan and purpose for all of our lives.  Once you identify and understand your own natural temperament learn to understand and appreciate the natural temperament of others that you are in relationships with.  Rather than trying to change them, appreciate your differences and focus on how these differences can make your team more productive.

The by-product of agreement is synergy – two or more things working together in order to create something that is bigger or greater than the sum of their individual efforts.  In marriage, synergy is necessary when dealing with finances, raising children, home management and resolving conflict.  When we choose to let God’s word be our standard, allow His word to shape our self-image, and learn to celebrate our differences, we can experience the power of agreement in every area of our lives.